Ask Angel – Gifts From Exes

Hi, so my ex and I broke up a while ago. He wrote me a letter and gave me a little plushie before we ended things. I have no idea what I should do with it. Should I throw it out? Do I keep it? Thanks. – Confused

Dear Confused, 

Deciding when to let go of those things can definitely be very hard. To know whether or not you should keep the letter and the plushie, I suggest you first determine how your ex-boyfriend treated you, the impact he had on your life, and the value that you place on the items he gave you. 

First and foremost, if your ex mistreated you, I suggest you burn the letter and the plushie. I believe that objects give off energy, and if you keep his things around, then you keep his bad energy around as well. If you aren’t spiritual and don’t believe in that, you still don’t need reminders of those that were bad to you in the past. 

On the other hand, even if your experience wasn’t necessarily a positive one, you may feel as though you want to remember the relationship for any number of reasons. It’s always best to try and move on, but if the relationship is one that you are able to get over, while still considering it an impactful, important experience in your life, then it may be nice to keep the letter and plushie as something to remember it by.

Judging from the way you worded your question, I’m going to assume that the items he gave to you aren’t extremely valuable or important. If you have no bad feelings towards your ex but you just don’t want to keep the plushie or the letter, you can get rid of them. It’s ok! Maybe a sibling would like the plushie or it could be donated. 

At the end of the day, most people would give you the same advice. If you have no use for the items, and you don’t want them, you can get rid of them. It’s impossible to move on from your ex if you are constantly reminded of them. Hope this helped! 

Signed, 

Angel