My friends only talk to me if they want help with school work…I feel like they wouldn’t be friends with me if I didn’t help them. What should I do? – Local Nerd
Dear Local Nerd,
Hey there, thank you for reaching out. First off, I’m really sorry that’s happening to you. This situation shouldn’t be too difficult to deal with, but I hope this article helps. I would probably just be straight-up and ask them about it. There’s no point in keeping this to yourself if it’s bothering you. You should tell them how you’re feeling, and then, honestly, I think getting some new friends is a good idea too.
I think it’s best that you do what makes you comfortable in this situation because you are the one who has the short end of the stick. You don’t even have to talk to them right away. If you’d like, you could take a few days for yourself and think about what you’re going to say so that you’re not at a loss for words when the time comes. I would recommend talking to them sooner rather than later, though, that way you won’t have this worrying you anymore.
You can text or call them and let them know that there’s something that’s been bothering you for a while. Then if you would prefer, you could arrange a time to talk to them. Obviously, you don’t have to do this in person, but you can if you would like. Once you see them, explain how you’ve been feeling. Being straight-up is the best way you can deal with this; there’s really no point in beating around the bush. It’ll just be easier to get it over with.
I think you should make new friends because it’s not fair for you to be used like this. You are a human being who has worth and value. Your friends shouldn’t be friends with you because of what you can give them. If they still want to be friends with you after the conversation, then great, but I still think you should get some new friends. You don’t have to drop them, just maybe slowly start distancing yourself this way you won’t be leaving things on a bad note.
You should take a few days to think things through and figure out what you’re going to say to your friends. Then you should contact them, find a time to meet up and explain how you feel. Finding new friends is a good next step, in my opinion. It’s better to hang around with people who care about you rather than people who are just using you to get good grades. I hope this helps.