Ask Angel – Making Friends

There’s someone in my class that I’ve always wanted to be friends with, but I don’t really know how to approach them. What do I do? – Oasis

Dear Oasis,

Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out. I understand that in these times, it seems like it’s more difficult to make friends, and I’m sure that everyone has been much less social than they were before. Fortunately for you, you’re not the only one who’s feeling this way, so you might find some people who are looking for friends, just like you. 

First off, you’re going to want to find a way to approach the other person. Start by making sure that they’re not already preoccupied. For example, a good time to approach them is if they’re not already talking to someone else. Make sure that you stay calm. I say that because I know it can be nerve-wracking to talk to someone new. Now this one being optional, you can write down a list of things you want to say so that you have an idea of how the conversation is going to go.

When given the opportunity, suggesting to work on a group project could help immensely. You will both have an idea of what the other person is like while discussing with each other. You will have an excuse to talk to them without feeling awkward, and you will get to know each other’s work patterns. If you guys work well together, you can work together again and that could bring you guys closer. When the project is over, you will be more familiar with each other. 

Finally, this last step shouldn’t be too hard considering you guys should already know each other by now. All you’ll have to do is make small talk. Here, the list of topics to talk about are very limited. So to stay on the safe side, start off with something small like how they’re doing, how their day’s going, if they have any plans for the weekend. By doing this, you might learn about their hobbies and/or if you guys have anything in common. Which could come in handy because you can bond over that.

Friends are overall really good for your mental health because they help with stress, loneliness, and personal growth. Although everyone is different and there are many ways to become friends with others, a few ways are by respectfully approaching them by making sure they’re not preoccupied, suggest to work on a group project to avoid any possible awkwardness, and make small talk if you see them outside of class to build a sense of familiarity. Don’t forget that the other person could be feeling exactly how you are due to a lack of socialization. I hope reading this helped and that everything goes well!

Signed,

Angel